• Madeline Leto

How to make the most of your three messages


Awesome, you have finally downloaded the polar baer app! We're so excited for you to start using polar baer and to help you find your special someone. Once the 'nudging' has begun, it’s time to send some messages. Here’s the catch, each person is only allowed to send three.


Not sure how to get all your thoughts down in three messages? Here are some suggestions to get you going.


If your first couple of messages to a new match usually consist of a “hey”, followed by a “what’s up?” or “how are you?”, and then a “nm, hbu?” back, you need to dress up your lingo. Try to introduce yourself by responding to something in your match’s bio. Saying “hey I saw you like cats! What kind of cat do you have?” is better than just saying “Hey, what’s up?” because it automatically gives you something to talk about. Plus, everyone likes talking about their pets.


Having a question or comment to get the conversation going is a great way to start, but you have to remember you only have three messages. Therefore, it is best to save the rest of the cat conversation until you see them in person. The next message should be asking them where they are so you can meet face to face. Polar baer locations can vary in size so making sure you’re specific about where you are or where you’d like to meet is important.


At polar baer, we want to stress the importance of being direct in these situations. With only three messages, there is no room to beat around the bush with vague questions and answers. The quicker you get to the point, the better chance you have of meeting your baer.


Society tells us that saying too much in one text comes off as overbearing and clingy. With polar baer, you might have to send longer messages than usual to get the most out of your match in the shortest amount of time. This is not to say you should be sending paragraph long messages, but try to find the balance between those and the short bland ones.


Polar baer wants you to make the most of your time by meeting people in real life, in real time. Having only three messages per person forces you to condense your messages to get past the boring stuff and into the juicy details right from the get-go. Don’t be afraid to shoot your shot and get to matching!